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Dominants the north, Moscow

I would like to write to you for a month before we ever meet

Posted as the_long_correspondence

Looking for
a submissive who is genuinely good company in writing
Experience
Nineteen years, three dynamics, two of which began as letters.
Around
the north, Moscow

The best thing I have ever had in this began with four months of writing and one meeting in a park at the end of it. By the time we sat down I knew how she thought, which is a thing photographs and lists are entirely useless for. I have never found a better method and I have stopped trying.

Forty seven, dominant woman, the north, nineteen years in. I do editorial work, so I am professionally biased toward the written word and I make no apology for it.

What I mean by writing is not messages through the day. I mean something closer to letters: a few times a week, at length, with actual thought in them. Tell me about your work and what you find tedious about it. Tell me what you were like at twenty and what you make of that person now. Somewhere in the middle of that, tell me what you want from a dominant, and it will mean something because I will know who is saying it.

This board is slow and everybody complains about that. I think it is the best thing about it. Somewhere slow is exactly where a correspondence can happen, and the people here seem to have the patience for it in a way they did not elsewhere.

What I want afterwards is a long structured dynamic, mostly domestic, formal in tone and gentle in practice. Not looking for anyone who finds all this an obstacle course before the real thing. It is the real thing. Not looking for brevity. Not looking to be somebody's pen friend forever, either.

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