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Dominants Jersey side, New York

Retired teacher, sixty three, still perfectly capable of running a room

Posted as quiet_authority_w

Looking for
a submissive who prefers formality to theatrics
Experience
Thirty four years, two marriages, both with this openly in them.
Around
Jersey side, New York

I taught for thirty one years. Two things follow from that. I am extremely comfortable being the person in the room who decides what happens next, and I have an unusually high tolerance for people being nervous, having watched several thousand of them be nervous in front of me.

Sixty three, Jersey side, dominant, thirty four years in this and no interest whatsoever in stopping. I have been married twice and both marriages had this in them, openly, from early on. The first ended for ordinary reasons and the second ended when she died. I am no longer in mourning and I am not looking for a replacement, a distinction I have had to make clear to two very kind people already.

What I want is formality. Address, manners, a proper structure, and someone who finds all of that steadying rather than silly. My style is quiet. I have never raised my voice inside a dynamic and I do not intend to start now.

I am told my posts read like something written forty years ago. That is probably fair. I have very little patience for the way people talk to each other on these boards now, where three messages of nothing are followed by a silence nobody explains.

Not looking for anyone under thirty five. Not looking for a pen pal. Not looking to be anybody's novelty.

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