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Submissives Jersey side, New York

Retired, sixty one, seeking a household service arrangement and nothing more

Posted as service_only_h

Looking for
a formal service role with no sexual element whatsoever
Experience
Twenty two years, three long arrangements, the longest of them nine.
Around
Jersey side, New York

I will be plain about the unusual part first, because it decides whether you keep reading. What I am looking for has no sexual element at all. Not deferred, not eventually, not once we know each other. None.

I am sixty one, retired two years, and I live alone on the Jersey side within easy reach of the city. I spent twenty two years in service dynamics, three of them formal and long, the longest running nine years until she died. I have not looked for anything since, and I have found that I miss the structure far more than I expected to.

What I do well: household order, driving, correspondence, and the hundred small administrative things that make a busy person's week work. I keep excellent records. I am punctual to the point of being irritating about it.

What I would like is a dominant, of any gender, who wants that kind of help on a regular and defined basis, with a proper agreement, a review every few months, and clear boundaries on both sides.

I understand this is a narrow request and that most people reading a personals board are not looking for what amounts to a formal arrangement of duty. I would rather post honestly for the one person it fits than write something vaguer, get more replies, and spend a month disappointing all of them in turn.

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