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Dominants the inner suburbs, Paris

Forty nine, five years out past the boulevard, and much happier for it

Posted as after_the_move_out

Looking for
a submissive who wants a slow arrangement and a quiet life
Experience
Twenty three years leading, three dynamics, two of them long.
Around
the inner suburbs, Paris

I spent twenty years inside the city and five out here and I would not go back for anything. The difference is not the size of the circle, though that is real. It is the pace, and it is the space. In there everything happened in a rush, in a rented room or in a flat where the neighbours could hear every word. Out here people are willing to spend an afternoon on something.

Forty nine, Paris, dominant, twenty three years. Three dynamics of substance, two of them long, and the most recent ended amicably eighteen months ago when she moved for work.

I am putting the comparison in the post because a fair number of the people who write to me from the middle of town ask, more or less, whether I am not bored out here. I am not. I see fewer people and I see them for longer and the arrangements last years rather than seasons, and I think those two facts are connected.

What I want is a long dynamic with a submissive who lives here or nearby. Service, standing rules, correction that is spoken rather than applied, and a great deal of ordinary domestic contact. I am not interested in anything episodic. I live alone in a house with a garden, which is the other thing you cannot have in there, and I can host easily.

I would want to write for a few weeks, then meet in the afternoon, and then keep writing. I am unhurried and I have been told I am hard to read at the start, which is fair. Not looking for anyone who wants to be part of a scene. There is one here and I am not in it.

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