Paris, dominant, and I will send you a document
Posted as everything_in_writing
- Looking for
- a submissive who finds precision reassuring rather than cold
- Experience
- Fifteen years, two long dynamics, both carefully documented.
- Around
- the Marais, Paris
At some point in the first month I will send you a document. It sets out what I expect, what I do not do, what happens when something goes wrong, and how either of us ends this. It is four pages. It has been through eleven revisions across fifteen years and it is the single most useful object I own.
Forty five, Paris, dominant, fifteen years. I am an engineer and I am aware of exactly how this reads. Two of the people I have been involved with found it the most reassuring thing that had ever happened to them. One found it clinical and said so, which was fair, and we parted before either of us wasted a season.
What I actually want is not clinical at all. A long dynamic, domestic in shape, with a submissive I see several times a week. Service, standing rules, correction that is spoken. Almost no impact. The document exists so that the rest can be warm without being vague.
I am not humourless and I am not rigid about the contents. Everything in it is negotiable and about a third of it changes for every person. I am in the city, I live alone, I can host, and my hours are regular and predictable, which is a rarer offer on this board than it should be.
I would want to write for a few weeks first, then meet in public twice, then decide. I do not improvise and I am not going to start.