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Couples the 11th, Paris

We work both seasons, and we are only free in May and October

Posted as may_and_october

Looking for
people whose calendar has the same two holes in it
Experience
Together fifteen years, this openly between us for six.
Around
the 11th, Paris

We work the winter and we work the summer, and in between there are two months when the city is between its seasons, the trade is dead and we have nothing at all to do. Those two months are our entire social life and have been for eleven years.

We are forty and forty three, in Paris, together fifteen years. She leads, I do not, and it has been open between us for six.

The isolation is real and we are not going to dress it up, which is an absurd thing to write in a city of this size. Everything in this happens on the evenings we are working, and for ten months of the year that is all of them. There are certainly people here. In a decade of looking we have met four of them, because we have never once been free on the night anybody else was.

What we would like is people to write to through the season and to see in May and October. That is an odd rhythm and we know it. It has worked twice, both times with people who gave us a whole weekend when it came round, and both of those friendships lasted years.

We have a spare room, which in this city is not nothing. It is not a substitute for being available and we are aware of it. We would want a long correspondence first, because that is the only thing our year permits and because we have both come to prefer it. Not looking for anybody who wants a night out. That is a different post, and we are at work on every night anybody would want one.

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