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Couples the 20th, Paris

Paris couple, twelve years together, and we move very slowly

Posted as slow_by_design

Looking for
a third person for a friendship that might become more in a year
Experience
Twelve years together, seven with a dynamic between us.
Around
the 20th, Paris

The last time we did this it took fourteen months from the first message to anything at all happening, and it lasted three years, and we are still close to her. We are telling you that at the top so that you can decide now whether we sound like a waste of your summer.

We are thirty six and forty, in Paris, twelve years together, seven of them with him leading and me not. We are both in medicine, which explains the caution and possibly also the paperwork.

What we are looking for is a third person, most likely a submissive woman, for something that begins as friendship and stays there until all three of us are certain. Dinners. Long conversations. Meeting each of us separately as well as together, which we insist on, because a person who has only ever seen us as a unit cannot make a real decision about either of us.

We are not interested in a weekend. We are not interested in anybody who wants to be introduced to a scene, because we are not part of one and have never been. What we can offer is stability, an enormous amount of talking, and two people who have already survived the difficult conversations that a first opening tends to produce.

We would want to write for several weeks. We would want you to write to both of us. And we would want you to have somebody in your own life who knows where you are, from the very first meeting, which is not a formality and which we will ask about.

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