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Submissives Belleville, Paris

Twenty four, and what I want is embarrassingly specific

Posted as the_narrow_want

Looking for
a dominant who is not disappointed by a very short list
Experience
Two years, no dynamic, several conversations that went nowhere.
Around
Belleville, Paris

There is one thing I want. Not a category, not a direction, one thing, and I have spent two years discovering that this makes me a disappointing correspondent. People want a person with range. I have a person with a single interest and a great deal of patience about it.

Twenty four, Paris, submissive, two years of reading and talking and nothing else. I am not going to describe the thing here, partly because this is a public board and partly because it is not interesting out of context, which is exactly the problem. It is about being given a standard and being held to it in one narrow domain, indefinitely, with nothing else attached.

What has happened four times now is that a conversation goes well, I explain, and the other person says that is fine and then spends a month gently proposing additions. I do not think anybody has been dishonest. I think a narrow want reads as an unfinished one.

It is not unfinished. I have thought about it since I was seventeen. I am a student, I share a flat, I cannot host and I have very little money and a great deal of free time in the day.

What I would like is a dominant who finds a small subject worth taking seriously for a long time, and who will not treat my limits as a starting position in a negotiation. If you write and it turns out that we want the same narrow thing, this becomes the easiest conversation either of us has had on here.

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