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Submissives the 19th, Paris

Sixty, forty years in kitchens, and formal about all of it

Posted as the_old_brigade

Looking for
a dominant who runs things properly and expects to be obeyed
Experience
Thirty one years, three arrangements, the longest nineteen.
Around
the 19th, Paris

I worked in kitchens from nineteen until I retired, and the thing that surprises people is that it is exactly where my taste for this comes from. A brigade has a real hierarchy, instructions are given clearly and followed without discussion, and the person in charge is in charge because they know what they are doing. I have never wanted anything else in my private life either.

Sixty, Paris, submissive, thirty one years. Three arrangements. The long one ran nineteen years and ended when she moved to be near her family, and we parted well, and I still hear from her at the new year.

What I want is formality. Address, standards, a proper structure, and somebody who is not embarrassed about expecting things. I am not interested in a dominant who apologises. I have spent my life around people who gave orders and I can tell within ten minutes whether somebody is comfortable doing it.

I am fit, I am useful with my hands, I keep an immaculate flat and I cook. Practical service is most of what I have to offer and it is what I am good at.

There is no sexual element required in what I am describing. If it grew into one, so be it, and I am content if it never does. I do not write elegantly and I am not going to pretend. What I do is turn up when I said, do what I said, and say so plainly when I cannot.

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