Two men, eight years, and we would like couples to know
Posted as two_of_us_east
- Looking for
- another couple who also have nobody to talk to about this
- Experience
- Together eight years, a dynamic between us for five.
- Around
- the 20th, Paris
We have been together eight years and for five of them one of us has led and the other has not, and in that time we have had exactly two conversations about it with anybody else. Both were with the same friend, both were slightly drunk, and neither went anywhere.
We are thirty four and forty three, in the east of Paris. He leads. I do not, and I am the one writing this, which he will find funny. What we want is other couples. Not a third, not an arrangement, not anything happening in a room. We want to be able to have dinner with two other people who understand the sentence we are both tired of not saying.
We think this is a common thing to want and an unusual thing to post about, because a couples advertisement is assumed to be about play. Ours is not, and if it ever became about anything else it would be years from now and after a great deal of talking.
We are aware that we may be an awkward proposition for some couples, and we would rather that were dealt with early and honestly than politely and slowly. We are both quite sociable, we cook properly, and we can host, which in this city is not nothing.
We would like to write first, for a few weeks, and we would like both of you to be in the conversation. A couple where one person answers everything is a couple where one person wants this, and we have made that mistake before.