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Submissives the south zone, Rio de Janeiro

I am going to want to be friends for months first, sorry

Posted as talk_your_ear_off

Looking for
company first, and everything else at whatever pace it happens
Experience
Two years, nothing serious, a lot of very long conversations.
Around
the south zone, Rio de Janeiro

I have written to eleven people on this board and met four of them and every single one of those four is now just a friend, and I have decided to stop treating that as a failure.

Twenty seven, south zone, submissive, two years of knowing this about myself. What happens is always the same. We start talking, I like them, I want to know about their sister and their job and what they think about everything, and by the time the conversation gets round to what either of us actually wants I have decided I would rather keep them.

I am aware this is not how a personals board is supposed to work. I am also aware that at some point I have to let one of these turn into something, and I am hoping to find somebody who is patient enough to be there when I do.

What I think I want, underneath all the talking, is somebody who takes charge of things. Not my whole life. Just the parts of it where I make a decision, look at it, and change it four times.

I live with a flatmate near the water, I can host in the day when she is out, and I am free most evenings and all weekend. Not looking for anybody who will read the friendliness as an opening. Not looking to be told I am wasting people's time, which somebody said and which stung because it might be true.

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