I am the loudest person in any room and I need stopping
Posted as loud_in_life_quiet
- Looking for
- a dominant with the presence to actually hold a line with me
- Experience
- Twelve years, three dynamics, two of which I steamrollered.
- Around
- Barra, Rio de Janeiro
I take over rooms. I do it without noticing, I have done it since I was a child, and in most of my life it is an asset and it is why I am good at my job. In this it is the single biggest problem I have.
Forty seven, out in Barra, submissive, twelve years. Two of my three dynamics failed for the same reason: I ran them. Not on purpose. I simply talked more, decided faster, and filled every silence, and both times the other person let me because it was easier, and both times we ended up with the exact opposite of what I had asked for.
So what I need is somebody with real presence who is not going to be pushed around by a person who is very charming and completely relentless. Somebody who will say no and mean it the first time. Somebody who can sit through me arguing and not move.
What I want is protocol and structure and being genuinely held to something. The relief when it works is enormous and I have felt it exactly once, for about eighteen months, and I have been looking for it ever since.
I am good company, I am generous, and I am hard work in the specific way described above. Not looking for anybody who wants an easy submissive. Not looking for a person who will find this flattering rather than a warning. Not looking to be managed with silence, which is what the last one tried.