Thirty, new to leading, and unwilling to pretend otherwise
Posted as new_at_leading
- Looking for
- an experienced submissive who is patient with somebody starting out
- Experience
- Eight years submitting. Four months on the other side of it.
- Around
- the north zone, Rio de Janeiro
Everybody on this side of the board writes as though they have always known what they were doing. I have been leading for four months and I am not going to invent a decade to look more credible.
Thirty, north zone. Eight years submitting before this, three of them in one long dynamic, and then a slow realisation over about two years that I wanted the other side and had been avoiding admitting it because it felt like a betrayal of something.
What I bring is eight years of knowing exactly how it feels from the other end. I know what a badly held rule does to a person. I know what it costs to report honestly and be met badly. That is not the same as experience and I am not pretending it is.
What I am looking for is somebody experienced who is comfortable being led by a person still learning the shape of it. I know that is an unusual ask and that it inverts the usual arrangement. I would want to talk a great deal, go slowly, and be told when I have got something wrong rather than have it absorbed politely.
I live in the north zone with a flatmate, so hosting is complicated, and I am free most evenings. Not looking for a beginner, because two of us learning at once is how the bad stories start. Not looking for anybody who finds the situation amusing. Not looking to be tested.