Everything about my evenings is decided by the timetable across the water
Posted as the_last_boat_back
- Looking for
- somebody on my side, or somebody who is happy for me to stay
- Experience
- Four years, one dynamic, ended when the travelling wore him out.
- Around
- Niterói side, Rio de Janeiro
I have left two good evenings early and stood in a queue watching people who live in the city go home slowly. That is the whole texture of being over here: everything ends when the boat does, and the road round is not a solution at seven in the evening.
Thirty four, on the Niterói side, submissive, four years in. My one real dynamic lasted fourteen months. He lived in the south zone, he did the crossing for a year, and then he told me honestly that he could not keep doing it, and he was right and I did not argue.
So there are two versions of me that work. Somebody on this side, which would be the simplest thing in the world and which almost nobody on this board seems to be. Or somebody who can host and is genuinely relaxed about me staying rather than watching the clock from nine o'clock onwards.
What I want is a long thing with rules in it. Daily contact, tasks, standards, somebody who keeps track of my week and expects things of me inside it. I work fixed hours in an office and my evenings are free and expensive.
Not looking for anybody who has never once thought about how the other person gets home. Not looking for anything that requires me to be somewhere at half past ten at night, because I cannot be. Not looking for a person who will find the geography romantic for two months and then not.