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Submissives the inner west, Sydney

Everybody here complains about the cold. Winter is my good half

Posted as heat_bad_season

Looking for
a long dynamic with somebody who plans and does not panic in December
Experience
Six years, three dynamics, one of them across four summers.
Around
the inner west, Sydney

Most people on this board complain about the cold. Winter is my good season. I have a condition where heat is the trigger, and from about the middle of November until March I am useful for roughly two hours a day and horizontal for a lot of the rest.

Thirty seven, the inner west, submissive, six years in. Right now, in May, I am the best version of myself, which is exactly why I am posting now instead of waiting for a better moment.

What that means for anybody who writes to me. From about December our arrangement gets smaller: nothing long, nothing physically demanding, and nothing at all in a room without air conditioning, which rules out most rentals in this city including mine. It does not stop. It changes shape. The last person I was with found that far easier than she expected once she had seen it happen once.

What I want is a long dynamic with somebody who plans. Structure, standing rules, contact that does not depend on how I am feeling that day. I am extremely reliable at the things I can do and I will tell you plainly about the things I cannot.

Not looking for anybody who wants to discuss my health in the first conversation. Not looking for somebody who will read a summer of small arrangements as the thing being over. Not looking to explain what the condition is before we have met, which is now a question I decline as a matter of policy.

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