BDSM personals in Sydney
Sydney is split by the harbour and by rent, and both come up constantly. People live further out than they would like and travel further than they want to, so a match across the city is a genuine commitment rather than a detail. The board runs on an inverted calendar, so summer here is January, and posts assume you know that.
Posts come from the inner west, the eastern suburbs, the north shore, the inner city and the west. People lead with where they are for a reason.
Dominants in Sydney
People looking to lead, and saying what that means to them.
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Fifty eight, in this in the nineties, and everything I knew is obsolete
Looking for: one submissive woman over forty for something long and mostly ordinary
A decade of it long ago, then fifteen years away, back since last winter.
I was part of this in the nineties, in a city that no longer exists in any recognisable form, and then I was away from it for fifteen years. I came back last winter and the first thing I discovered is that everything I knew about how people meet is obsolete.
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Everything I have been part of took months, and people ask about it at week eight
Looking for: one submissive over thirty who reads patience correctly
Twenty four years, and nothing worthwhile has ever started quickly.
Nothing I have ever been part of that mattered started quickly. Every good dynamic I have had took four to six months to become itself, and in every one of them there was a point around week eight where the other person asked, more or less politely, when we were going to get on with it.
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I am out of the country every January and I am saying so in June
Looking for: one submissive for something long, close and quite intense
Thirteen years, two arrangements that ran longer than a year.
I am away every January. The whole month, out of the country, no exceptions, and I have been doing it for six years. I am putting that in a post written in June because two people found out about it in December and both of them, reasonably, felt it should have come up rather earlier.
Submissives in Sydney
People looking to submit, on terms they set out first.
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One weekend a month is what I have, and it is not going to change
Looking for: somebody who can build something real out of a monthly rhythm
Eleven years, mostly inside a marriage, two short things since.
My children are with me almost all of the time and their father has them one weekend in four. That weekend is what I have. It is not going to change for years, and I have stopped presenting it as a temporary difficulty because it is not one.
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Daylight, in public, the first three times, and it is not up for discussion
Looking for: a dominant who reads all of that as ordinary rather than as a hurdle
Four years, two good dynamics, both of which started very slowly.
I only meet people in daylight, in public, for the first three times. That is not negotiable and it is not a comment on you. I have my reasons, they are mine, and anybody who needs to hear them before agreeing is telling me something useful about themselves.
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Everybody here complains about the cold. Winter is my good half
Looking for: a long dynamic with somebody who plans and does not panic in December
Six years, three dynamics, one of them across four summers.
Most people on this board complain about the cold. Winter is my good season. I have a condition where heat is the trigger, and from about the middle of November until March I am useful for roughly two hours a day and horizontal for a lot of the rest.
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Three weeks away, one week home, and it is why I am still on my own
Looking for: a dominant who treats the away weeks as the main event
Eight years, and one arrangement that worked around the roster for two of them.
Three weeks away, one week home. That is my roster, it has been for four years, and it is the single reason I am still on my own.
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I traded two hours a day for a place I could afford and I am done pretending
Looking for: somebody out this way, or somebody who understands a written week
Seven years, one dynamic that ran on a train for two of them.
Two hours each way, four days a week. That is what it costs me to work in the city and live somewhere I can afford. I made the trade with my eyes open and I would like to stop pretending it has no consequences for anything else.
Switches in Sydney
People who go both ways and want a partner who can follow.
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The drive is a decision about money as much as time, and I will say so
Looking for: somebody within about forty minutes, either direction of role
Seven years, blunt throughout, two dynamics of real length.
I drive everywhere and the tolls add up, which is not a romantic thing to put in a personal advertisement and is nonetheless one of the real reasons I have said no to people.
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Single eleven years, liked most of them, and in no hurry whatsoever
Looking for: company and a dynamic with somebody around my own age
Twenty six years, widowed young, one long thing since.
I have been single for eleven years and I have liked most of them. I am not lonely, I am not looking for somebody to complete anything, and I am not going to manufacture an urgency I do not feel in order to look like a better prospect.
Couples in Sydney
Partners searching together, with both of them in the post.
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A cold terrace, one bathroom, and a neighbour on the other side of the brick
Looking for: another couple, dinner first, and no arrangements made in advance
Seven years together, three with this, and one friend who knows.
We rent a two bedroom terrace with one bathroom, a kitchen last renovated some time in the seventies, and a heater we run for about an hour a night because of what it does to the bill. It is May, it has turned, and we are both wearing everything we own.
Writing your own
Reading fifty of these is the easy half. The handbook covers the rest.
- Writing a profile that says something
- Photographs, and staying anonymous enough
- The safety basics, in one page
- What a first meeting is actually like
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