One weekend a month is what I have, and it is not going to change
Posted as one_weekend_in_four
- Looking for
- somebody who can build something real out of a monthly rhythm
- Experience
- Eleven years, mostly inside a marriage, two short things since.
- Around
- the north shore, Sydney
My children are with me almost all of the time and their father has them one weekend in four. That weekend is what I have. It is not going to change for years, and I have stopped presenting it as a temporary difficulty because it is not one.
Forty, the north shore, submissive, eleven years in. Eleven is a little misleading: most of it was inside a marriage that has been over for three years, and what I have done since is two short things that both fell apart on the arithmetic above.
What I would like is a dominant who can build something real out of one weekend a month plus a great deal of contact in between. The in between is where I think it actually lives. Daily messages, tasks, a structure running through ordinary weeks in which I am mostly a parent and an employee and not much else.
I am on the north shore and I can travel on my free weekend, including staying somewhere, which is the one genuine advantage of a monthly rhythm.
Not looking for anybody who wants to meet my children, and that is permanent rather than cautious. Not looking for anybody who will say a weekend a month is fine and then start asking for a weeknight in month two, which both of the last two did. Not looking to be anybody's second priority either, which I appreciate is rich coming from a woman offering one weekend in four.