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Submissives the eastern suburbs, Sydney

Everybody on here is keen. Six of them this year, and then nothing

Posted as keen_and_then_gone

Looking for
one dominant who does the thing they said they would do
Experience
Five years, two dynamics, both of which ended well and on good terms.
Around
the eastern suburbs, Sydney

Everybody on here is keen. Keen to chat, keen to meet, keen to see where it goes. Then nothing. Six people this year have described themselves as keen and then evaporated somewhere between the first good conversation and the first actual arrangement.

Thirty four, the eastern suburbs, submissive, five years in, and I am aware that this is opening in a mood. I have decided that is better than another cheerful post that gets me another six keen people.

Here is what I want, stated so plainly that nobody can misread it. One dominant. Something ongoing, starting with a coffee, moving at a normal human pace, with the understanding that if you say you will do a thing you will do it. That is the entire specification. It is not a high bar and it is apparently very difficult to clear.

I am not difficult in person. I am told I am warm and quite funny, and both my previous dynamics ended well and on good terms. This is a board problem and not a me problem, and if that sounds arrogant I would point out that six from six is a pattern.

Not looking for chat. Not looking for anybody who wants to talk for three weeks before meeting. Not looking for anybody who is going to tell me my tone is off putting, which happened last month, from a man who then did not reply to my answer.

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