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Submissives the eastern suburbs, Sydney

Two years running I have lost somebody good to the month of January

Posted as january_is_not_real

Looking for
a dominant who wants something that can survive a summer
Experience
Three years, two short dynamics, both of them killed by the calendar.
Around
the eastern suburbs, Sydney

Two years running I have met somebody good in November and lost them to January. Not to another person. To the month. Everybody in this city goes somewhere for four weeks, comes back sunburnt and broke, and by February whatever you had built has quietly expired.

Twenty nine, the eastern suburbs, submissive, three years in. So I am starting in July on purpose. If we meet now we have five months to become something that can survive a summer, which I have decided is the real test of anything here.

What I want is a dominant who wants a long structured thing rather than a run of good evenings. I respond to rules and to being checked on. I do very badly with anything that depends on both of us being enthusiastic on the same night.

I should say that I am at the younger end of this board and I know that gets read two ways. I am not looking for anybody to pay for anything and I am not looking to be somebody's education project. I have a job, a lease and a life that is already reasonably full.

Not looking for anybody who will disappear from the middle of December to the end of January without mentioning it first. If you are going away, say so now and we will plan around it, because that is completely fine and the vanishing is not.

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