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Switches the 905, Toronto

My community is four streets wide and this has to stay away from it

Posted as everyone_knows_aunt

Looking for
somebody in the city who understands a long slow start
Experience
Five years, careful to the point of being difficult to meet.
Around
the 905, Toronto

My community here is about four streets wide and everybody in it knows my aunt. That is not an exaggeration for effect. If I am seen twice with the same person, my mother hears about it before I get home, and she hears it from somebody who genuinely means well.

Thirty one, the 905, switch, five years in and every one of them careful to the point of being nearly impossible to date.

What that means in practice. I will not meet anybody within a long radius of where I live. I do not use photographs. I will want to talk for a while before meeting, not because I am timid but because I have very little margin for error and one poor judgement would follow me for years.

I know this asks a great deal and gives back very little at the start. In exchange I am extremely serious about it, I do not waste anybody's time, and I have never once been the person who simply stops replying.

What I want is something ongoing with one person, in either direction. I lead slightly more than I bottom and I would like to get better at both. I am free most evenings and I can get into the city easily, which is the one advantage buried in all of the above: I would much rather come to you. Not looking for anybody who reads the discretion as evidence of a wife. There is no wife. Not looking for anybody whose main interest is going to things together.

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