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Dominants North York, Toronto

Discretion here is not a preference, it is the floor plan

Posted as mother_lives_with_me

Looking for
a submissive man who can host and will not call this hiding
Experience
Twelve years, two dynamics, both conducted somewhere other than my house.
Around
North York, Toronto

My mother lives with me and she will live with me for the rest of her life. That is not a difficulty I am hoping to resolve. It is the arrangement, it is the correct arrangement, and it means my discretion is structural rather than a preference somebody might talk me out of.

Forty one, North York, dominant, twelve years. She is downstairs, she is sharp, and she understands considerably more English than she lets on. Nothing happens in my house. Nothing is left anywhere. My phone is face down out of habit rather than out of fear.

So what I need is somebody who can host, or who has the imagination to find another answer, and who will not read any of the above as me being ashamed. I am not. I have a parent under my roof and a community that overlaps with hers in ways that would make an accidental discovery painful for her rather than for me.

What I want: one submissive, ideally a man in his thirties or forties, for something ongoing and quite formal. I lead through expectation rather than instruction. I like a person who is competent out in the world and chooses to hand something over, and I have very little interest in anybody who wants to be relieved of adulthood in general.

Not looking for anybody who wants to be seen with me anywhere. Not looking for daily contact, which I cannot reliably give. Not looking for the person who will eventually ask when I am going to stop hiding.

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