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Dominants the 905, Toronto

Sunday mornings, every week, and nothing at all outside them

Posted as sunday_mornings

Looking for
a submissive who treats a standing weekly hour as a foundation
Experience
Seventeen years, four dynamics, all of them run on a fixed schedule.
Around
the 905, Toronto

Sunday mornings. That is what I have, every week, reliably, from about eight until one. I am not going to dress that up as more than it is, and I am not going to apologise for it either, because a dependable five hours a week is more than most people on this board actually manage.

Forty six, the 905, dominant, seventeen years in. I have a partner. He knows, he has always known, he is not part of this and has never wanted to be. That arrangement is settled, it is not a crisis waiting to happen, and it is not up for discussion beyond this paragraph.

What I want is one submissive who will treat a standing weekly appointment as the foundation rather than the whole building. In between there would be tasks, messages, a structure that runs quietly through the week. People either love this shape or find it insulting, and the ones who find it insulting tend to say so around week five rather than week one.

I lead formally. Address, protocol, a clear structure, review every few months. I am not cold and I am certainly not cruel, but I am not warm quickly either, and I would rather you knew that than found it out.

Not looking for spontaneity. Not looking for anybody hoping the situation at home will change. Not looking for evenings, which do not exist for me, and no amount of chemistry will invent them.

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