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Dominants downtown, Toronto

Everything I do has to be silent, and it made me better at it

Posted as quiet_is_a_skill

Looking for
one submissive who finds restraint interesting rather than limiting
Experience
Six years, four of them in a building where sound travels.
Around
downtown, Toronto

I live in a tower where I can hear my neighbour's kettle. Everything I do has been silent for four years, and the strange result is that I am considerably better at this than I was when I had a house.

Thirty two, downtown, dominant, six years in. When noise is impossible, what is left is precision, patience and attention, and those turn out to be the parts that actually matter. I have learned to run something entirely at a level below conversation. Position, breathing, waiting, and being watched. It sounds austere written down. It is not.

There are practical rules attached. Nothing that involves the corridor. Nothing after eleven. Anything that requires a raised voice from either of us is out permanently, and if that is central for you then this is a genuine mismatch rather than a challenge to be met.

What I want is one submissive for something regular and long. I have no interest in a rotation and none at all in anything at events. I would like somebody who finds restraint interesting rather than limiting, and who understands that a small room and a hard limit on noise makes a scene more difficult, not less.

I can host, with all of the above attached to it. I can also travel. Not looking for anybody who will test the rule to see whether I meant it. Not looking for a submissive who needs to be told they are doing well every ten minutes, although you will be told when you are.

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