My wife leads, my wife does not write these, so you get me
Posted as she_does_not_post
- Looking for
- another couple in the same configuration, friendship first
- Experience
- Married eleven years, nine of them with this, no other couples known.
- Around
- downtown, Toronto
My wife leads. My wife also thinks that writing a personal advertisement is an undignified way for an adult to spend an evening, so you get me, and she has read this and removed two jokes.
Forty three and forty five, downtown, married eleven years, with this in it for nine. I am the submissive one, which people work out about four minutes after meeting us and which I have finally stopped finding embarrassing.
What we are looking for is another couple in the same configuration. Woman leading, man not. That is narrow and I know it, and the reason is that both of us have found conversation with couples like us endlessly reassuring in a way that nothing else has been. She has nobody to talk to about the particular difficulties of it. Neither do I. There is a great deal in this that cannot be said to friends, and after nine years that is genuinely lonely.
Friendship first, and honestly friendship might be the whole of it. If two couples got on well enough that something else happened, none of us would be scandalised.
We live in a small place downtown, so anything social happens elsewhere, which is a sentence I have written in every version of this post. Not looking for a single dominant woman. Not looking for a couple where the man is quietly hoping to change places. Not looking for anybody who wants to talk to her and not to me, which happens constantly and which she finds ruder than I do.