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Switches North York, Toronto

I can host from December to April and not one day outside it

Posted as snowbird_window

Looking for
a long partnership started now rather than in the first week of December
Experience
Ten years, both directions, several good stretches and one bad one.
Around
North York, Toronto

My parents go south at the beginning of December and come back at the end of April. I keep an eye on their house while they are away, which means that for five months of the year I have a whole empty house with a driveway, and for the other seven I live in a one bedroom apartment with a landlord upstairs.

Forty four, North York, switch, ten years in. So my year has an odd shape to it. In winter I can host anything at any hour in comfort. In summer I can offer a coffee and an apology.

I am aware this reads like a bad joke about a city where nobody wants to leave the house between December and April, and that is exactly why I am posting in July. I would like to know somebody properly before the window opens, rather than acquire a close friend in the first week of December for reasons that would be obvious to both of us.

What I want is a long partnership with somebody who switches, or somebody firmly on one side who is happy for me to be firmly on the other. I have done both and both have been good.

I do not use my parents' house for anything they would be upset about. That has to be said out loud, because two people have assumed the opposite and one of them found the assumption funny, which I did not. Not looking for anything that only exists in the winter. Not looking for somebody who wants to meet the family, since we are on the subject.

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