I plan everything. I would like one part of my life I do not plan
Posted as tires_in_september
- Looking for
- somebody genuinely competent, because I will notice if they are not
- Experience
- Eight years, two dynamics, both good, both ended for ordinary reasons.
- Around
- the 905, Toronto
My winter tires are booked in September. My passport was renewed a year early. There is a spreadsheet for the groceries. I am the person everybody in my family calls when something has gone wrong, because I will have thought about it already, and I have been that person since I was about nineteen.
Fifty two, the 905, submissive, and what I want is one part of my life where I am not the one who thought about it.
Eight years in, two dynamics, both good, both ended for ordinary reasons. I am not fragile and I am not looking to be relieved of my responsibilities. I run a department, I own my house, and none of that is a weight I want lifted. It is narrower than that. I want a defined stretch of time in which the decisions are somebody else's, and I want that person to be genuinely competent, because I will notice immediately if they are not.
That is the honest risk here. I am difficult to lead badly. I have watched two people discover this and get defensive about it. What works is somebody secure enough to be told they have made a poor call, adjust, and carry on being in charge.
Practical: the 905, I drive everywhere, and I can host on the weeks my son is at his father's. Not looking for a performance. Not looking for anybody who confuses volume with authority. Not looking for anybody who needs me to be smaller in order to feel large.