Together thirty four years, doing this for three, and completely at sea
Posted as thirty_four_and_three
- Looking for
- a couple around our own age who could tell us whether we are ordinary
- Experience
- Three years of a private arrangement invented entirely from scratch.
- Around
- the west end, Toronto
Together thirty four years, and three years into a part of our marriage that neither of us saw coming. We are sixty two and sixty four. We are also, in the vocabulary of this board, completely at sea, and we would rather admit that than write something which sounds knowledgeable.
It began with a conversation after a long illness in the family, of all things, and a remark one of us made that surprised the other. Three years later we have a private arrangement at home that works beautifully and that we cannot describe to anybody, because we have never met a single other person who does any of this.
That is what we want. People. Conversation. Ideally a couple around our own age who could tell us whether the things we have invented for ourselves are ordinary or peculiar. We suspect they are ordinary and that there is a word for every one of them.
If anything else ever came of it we would be open to talking, but we would be lying if we claimed that was the point of the post. The point is that we would like to stop being the only two people who know.
He leads. I asked him to. Nobody who knows us would guess it in either direction. Not looking for anybody who wants to give us a reading list. Not looking to be anybody's curiosity. Not looking for a first meeting that is anything other than four people and a pot of coffee.