this is going to be a slightly awkward first post but here goes.
i am asexual. i am also, unmistakably and for a long time now, into a fair bit of what gets discussed on this site. those two facts sit together perfectly comfortably in my own head and appear to cause enormous confusion everywhere else.
what i want is about control and structure and being useful to someone. what i do not want is sex, and that is not a shyness thing or a not yet thing, it is just how i am built.
every profile i read seems to assume the two are the same subject. every conversation i have started has arrived at the assumption within about four messages, usually kindly, usually as a sort of we will see.
so: are there people out there for whom this works, or am i looking in the wrong place entirely? how do you word it so it reads as a description rather than a limitation people think they can negotiate?
