took the advice that gets given here about a hundred times a week and went to my local munch on friday.
sat there for two hours. spoke to the person who took my name at the door, ordered a drink, and then sat on the end of a long table listening to a group of people who have obviously known each other for years talk about someone called dave and a thing that happened at a party in the summer.
two people said hello. neither of them asked me anything. nobody was rude. it was just very clear that i had walked into somebody else’s friendship group and there was no mechanism for me to get into it.
i left at half nine and felt worse than i had before i went, which was not what i was expecting from something described everywhere as the easy first step.
so is this normal for a first one? is it that particular group? and is there something i was supposed to do that i did not do, because everyone talks about munches as though turning up is the whole skill.
