Three dynamics, three good endings, and I want to plan the next one
Posted as agree_the_ending
- Looking for
- somebody willing to agree at the start how we would stop
- Experience
- Fourteen years, three dynamics, on good terms with all three.
- Around
- Noord, Amsterdam
Three dynamics, the longest of them four years, and I am on decent terms with every one of those people. One helped me move in February. I mention it because how a thing finishes is the most useful information anybody can give you about themselves, and almost nobody puts it in a post.
Thirty nine, submissive, Noord, fourteen years in. What I would like to agree at the very start, with whoever this turns out to be, is how we stop. Not because I expect failure. Because everything ends eventually, and the version where somebody goes quiet for a fortnight and then sends a long paragraph is a worse ending than either of us needs. I would like us to settle now that we tell each other in person, that we leave a week before anything is final, and that neither of us disappears.
Beyond that I want the ordinary things. A long dynamic with structure. Being held to something. A dominant who says it directly when I have fallen short rather than saving it up.
I live alone, I can host, and my week is regular in a way that makes me both boring and reliable.
Not looking for anybody who finds the above unromantic. Not looking to be part of a rotation. Not looking for a person who has never ended anything cleanly, because it turns out to be a skill and you can hear it in how they describe the last one.