Living in a friend's spare room and posting anyway
Posted as spare_room_of_a_friend
- Looking for
- structure while every other part of my life is temporary
- Experience
- Eight years, three dynamics, the longest of them two years.
- Around
- the east, Amsterdam
Six months ago my relationship ended and a friend offered me his spare room for a few weeks. I am still in it. He has been generous about it well past the point where generosity is comfortable for either of us, and I am on three waiting lists that move about as fast as you would expect.
So this may be a poor moment to write a post like this. Thirty three, submissive, east side, eight years in. Everything about my life is provisional at the minute except the thing I want, which has not changed since I was twenty two.
What I want is structure while nothing else has any. Somebody who sets a small number of expectations and then actually holds them. I am not asking to be looked after and I am not in crisis. I go to work, I see people, I cook, I am fine. I would simply like one part of the week to have a shape that somebody else decided on.
I cannot host and will not be able to for a long time. I can travel anywhere in the city on any evening and I am free far more often than most people my age.
Not looking for anybody who reads an unsettled patch as a project. Not looking to discuss my ex, at any point. Not looking for something that only happens when it is convenient, since convenient is not a thing my life currently produces.