Four addresses in three years, so whatever this is has to travel
Posted as eleven_month_sublet
- Looking for
- a dominant who is not put off by a life kept in boxes
- Experience
- Five years, two dynamics, one of them good.
- Around
- the west, Amsterdam
My current sublet ends in March and I have no idea where I go after that. Four addresses in three years, all of them somebody else's flat, every one of them finishing on a date somebody else chose. That is the most relevant fact about me and it has nothing to do with kink.
Twenty nine, submissive, five years in, currently somewhere in the west. I cannot host. I have never been able to host. I do not own a single piece of furniture and my winter things live in a friend's cellar.
What I want is something that survives an address change, because mine will change. Rules that live in my head rather than in a room. A structure I keep whether or not we are in the same place that week. Daily contact, standards I am held to, and somebody who notices when I have gone quiet instead of assuming I am busy.
Everything else here is easy. Nothing is more than twenty minutes away on a bike, so we can see each other as often as both of us want to, and that is the part I am actually looking forward to.
Not looking for anyone who will suggest I simply find somewhere better, as though the thought had not occurred to me. Not looking for someone whose own space is sacred in a way that means I am never quite welcome in it. And not looking for sympathy about the housing, because everybody I know lives like this and we are all fine. What I would like instead is somebody who understands that a person who has moved four times can still be entirely reliable about the things that matter, and who is prepared to test that rather than assume it.