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Submissives the ring, Amsterdam

Please write what you mean, in words, in whichever language

Posted as say_the_actual_thing

Looking for
a dominant who states a thing rather than hinting at it
Experience
Nine years, most of it before I moved here.
Around
the ring, Amsterdam

Seven years in this city and I still find the way people write about what they want completely baffling. Not the Dutch. The Dutch are fine. It is everybody else, the long posts full of maybe and we will see and let us find out where it goes.

Thirty one, submissive, from Poland, English is my third language and I write it better than I speak it. I work in logistics and I live just inside the ring.

Please say the actual thing. If you want a submissive who reports every morning, write that. If you want twice a month and nothing in between, write that too, and I will either agree or decline and neither of us loses a month finding out. When I ask a direct question and get a joke back, I read it as an answer being avoided.

Since I am demanding it of you: a long dynamic, one person, obedience in named areas rather than in general, and correction that is spoken rather than physical. Pain does not interest me. I have said this to four people who waited a decent interval and then asked again.

I will get idioms wrong and my messages will read like instructions. That is not coldness. It is the fastest route I know to being understood.

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