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Couples the west, Amsterdam

One room, a landlord downstairs, and nowhere to put anybody

Posted as nowhere_to_put_anybody

Looking for
one submissive woman for something regular, wherever it can happen
Experience
Three years between the two of us, nobody else ever involved.
Around
the west, Amsterdam

We have one room with a bed in it, a landlord who lives downstairs, and a sublet arrangement we would rather nobody examined too closely. That is our contribution to any evening: nothing whatsoever. We have nowhere to put anybody.

Thirty one and thirty four, together five years, in the west. He leads, I do not, and we have been doing this between ourselves for three years without another person involved at any point.

So this is half a post and half a question to the board, which is how does anybody actually manage it here. Everyone we have spoken to has the same problem from the other end. Two people wrote to us and both of them share with three others.

What we want is one submissive woman for something regular and unhurried. Weeknights, mostly. A defined role rather than an occasional evening. If you have a place of your own we will be honest that it changes the practicalities enormously, and equally honest that it is not the reason we would be interested.

We move slowly. Everybody meets in public first, more than once, and nothing happens until all three of us have said out loud what we want from it. Not looking for a couple. Not looking for anybody who wants only one of us. Not looking for someone who will disappear once the logistics turn out to be exactly as annoying as described.

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