A single dominant looking for a couple, which confuses everybody
Posted as looking_for_household
- Looking for
- an established couple with room for a third in the structure
- Experience
- Sixteen years, one four year arrangement with a married couple.
- Around
- the east, Amsterdam
Most posts from single dominants are looking for a submissive. I am looking for a couple, which puts me in a strange corner of this board, and the handful of people who write to me have usually misread it entirely.
Forty two, dominant woman, in the east, sixteen years in. What I want is to be the third person in an established household: a defined role, agreed by all three of us, in which I lead one or both of them inside limits everybody has discussed in daylight.
I have done it once, for four years, with a married couple who are still close friends. It worked because they were solid before I arrived and stayed solid throughout, and because none of us pretended it was a romance with three people in it.
What I would want to know first is how the two of you actually make decisions, because that predicts everything else. Then a great deal of slow talking, in public, with all three of us present every time.
Not looking for a couple where one of them is doing this to keep the other happy, and I will ask, and I am reasonably good at hearing it. Not looking to be a solution to something that has already started going wrong between you. Not looking for anyone who wants me for a single evening as an experiment, since I am offering a role rather than a visit.