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Dominants Noord, Amsterdam

I am over the water, which apparently requires an expedition

Posted as water_is_not_a_border

Looking for
one submissive for a domestic arrangement, in a house with space
Experience
Seventeen years, two arrangements, one of them five years.
Around
Noord, Amsterdam

The water is the only real border in this city and people behave as though crossing it involves paperwork. It takes minutes. It is free. It runs all night. And yet the moment I say where I am, roughly half of the conversations quietly wind down.

Forty five, dominant woman, Noord, seventeen years in, living in a house with a garden and no shared walls, which is precisely why I am over here.

I have space, I am not overheard, and I can host in a way almost nobody on the other side of the water can. That is the entire practical argument and I am tired of having to make it.

What I want is one submissive, ongoing, for a domestic dynamic rather than a dramatic one. Standing duties, regular evenings, a written agreement that gets reviewed properly. I have had two arrangements like it, one of five years, and both worked because the person genuinely wanted a routine rather than a story to tell afterwards.

I am direct, sometimes too direct, and I would rather be told when I have been. Not looking for anybody who needs me to come to them every single time. Not looking for someone who describes twenty minutes as a commute. Not looking for a person who will be here for a season, because the last two both left the country and I am not doing that again this year.

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