I am not an item on anybody's weekend itinerary
Posted as not_part_of_your_trip
- Looking for
- somebody who lives here and intends to carry on living here
- Experience
- Twelve years, two long dynamics, both ended when people moved.
- Around
- the south, Amsterdam
Eleven of the last twenty messages I received were from people who will be in this city for a long weekend. I am not part of anybody's trip. I would rather have that at the top than keep writing the same polite reply.
Thirty four, dominant woman, in the south, twelve years in. This place attracts a particular kind of visitor and a particular kind of message and neither is interesting to me. I am not an experience. I am a person with a job, a bicycle and a very full week.
What I want is somebody who lives here and plans to keep doing so. A submissive, any gender, for a dynamic that gets built slowly and then stays built. I like routine. I like knowing what a person's Wednesday looks like. I have no appetite whatsoever for intensity that arrives on a Friday and goes home on Sunday.
Not looking for anyone who opens by telling me how open minded this city is, since that sentence has only ever preceded a request for a weekend. Not looking for a first meeting anywhere near the middle of town. Not looking to explain again that a dynamic is a relationship rather than something to be fitted between two other plans.