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Dominants the south, Amsterdam

Twenty minutes a day beats four hours once a week

Posted as twenty_minutes_daily

Looking for
a submissive who lives close and keeps a genuinely regular week
Experience
Fifteen years, one three year dynamic run exactly this way.
Around
the south, Amsterdam

The thing I want is odd enough that I have stopped burying it in the fourth paragraph: twenty minutes a day, every day, in person, instead of four hours once a week. It is only possible in a city this small and it is the main reason I have never wanted to live in a bigger one.

Thirty nine, dominant woman, in the south, fifteen years in. I ran one dynamic this way for three years and nothing before or since has come close to it.

In practice it is small and relentless. Somebody arrives at a set time. A few things must have been done, and they are checked. Something is corrected, or it is not, and then they leave and we both get on with the evening. Across a year it accumulates into something much heavier than any single long session ever produced, and the person who did it with me said the same at the end.

Which means I need somebody who lives close and whose schedule is genuinely regular. A small pool, and I know it.

Not looking for anybody who wants a big Saturday and nothing in between. Not looking for someone who will find this dull, and from outside it does look dull. Not looking for a person who cannot be relied on to arrive at the same time, because the entire thing is built out of that and nothing else.

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