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Dominants Noord, Amsterdam

Only writing to people over forty, and here is the reason

Posted as over_forty_please

Looking for
a submissive man whose life already works, for a long arrangement
Experience
Eighteen years, three arrangements, the longest of them seven.
Around
Noord, Amsterdam

I only want to hear from people over forty, and rather than let that lurk in the small print I am putting it in the second line where it belongs.

Fifty two, dominant man, Noord, eighteen years in. This is not a rule about how anybody looks and it is not about anybody being too young for anything. It is that I have tried it twice with people in their late twenties, both of them impressive, and both times what failed was not attraction. I wanted somebody with a settled life to build a dynamic alongside and they were still finding out what their life was going to be. Fair enough. Wrong pairing.

What I want is a long arrangement with a submissive man whose week already works. Service, structure, standing duties, and a slow build across a year rather than a fortnight. I am formal on paper and considerably less so at a kitchen table.

I can host, I am home most evenings, and I cook properly and will feed you whether or not you are hungry.

Not looking for a person who wants rescuing from a dull decade. Not looking for anybody who wants to renegotiate every time we meet, since the point of an agreement is that it holds until we change it on purpose. Not looking to be told age is only a number, because it is also twenty years of habits, and habits are what a dynamic is actually made out of.

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