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Dominants the east, Amsterdam

Somebody told me the west was a trek. It is fifteen minutes

Posted as nothing_here_is_far

Looking for
one submissive, seen often, for something that runs in years
Experience
Nineteen years, three dynamics, the last of them six years.
Around
the east, Amsterdam

Somebody told me last month that the west was a bit of a trek. It is fifteen minutes. I have timed it, on a bicycle, into a headwind, in February, in work clothes. This is the smallest city any of us will ever live in and I have stopped accepting geography as an excuse.

Forty three, dominant woman, in the east, nineteen years in. That opening is not really about distance. It is that people here give a soft no instead of a real one, and I would much rather be told plainly that you are not interested.

I want one submissive, ongoing, for something measured in years. Daily contact, standards that exist whether or not we have seen each other, and a check in that takes four minutes and matters more than any evening. I am not theatrical, I do not dress up, and most of what I do would look extremely dull from outside.

Because nothing here is far, I expect to see the person I am with often. Twice a week at the least. If the honest amount of time you have is one evening a month, that is a perfectly good life and it is not this one.

Not looking for a man who wants to be told what he wants. Not looking to be called anything at all before we have met twice. Not looking for a first message that lists what you would like done to you, which is the cart a very long way in front of the horse. And not looking for anybody who has decided in advance what a woman of my age is supposed to want, since two of the last four managed it inside three lines.

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