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Dominants the west, Amsterdam

You will cycle past your exes here, so please be graceful about it

Posted as passed_two_on_thursday

Looking for
a submissive woman who can manage a hello without a scene
Experience
Twenty two years, four dynamics, all of them ended amicably.
Around
the west, Amsterdam

Last Thursday I passed two former partners in a single afternoon, one of them twice. That is not a story about my luck. It is what living here is like, and anybody who imagines they can do this quietly in a city of this size has not been doing it long.

Fifty three, dominant man, in the west, twenty two years in. I am not indiscreet and I do not talk about people. But I have finished pretending our paths will not cross, because they will, in a shop, on a bridge, at somebody's birthday. What I need is a submissive who can handle that gracefully. A nod, a hello, and no performance about it in either direction.

What I am looking for is a long dynamic with one woman. Ordinary, domestic, structured, and very demanding about small things. I am at my best across years and fairly unremarkable across weeks.

I live alone, I have a spare room full of bicycles in various states of repair, and I am home most evenings except Wednesday.

Not looking for anybody who wants total secrecy, because I cannot promise it and I will not pretend that I can. Not looking for someone who will be upset that I know people. Not looking to be interviewed about previous partners, all of whom are fine and none of whom are your business, exactly as you will not be theirs.

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