One hour a week, same day, same time, for years
Posted as same_hour_every_week
- Looking for
- a standing weekly arrangement and explicitly not a relationship
- Experience
- Twenty three years, four arrangements, all of them regular.
- Around
- the ring, Amsterdam
One hour a week, on the same day, at the same time, indefinitely. Not a relationship. Not building towards a relationship. One hour, held properly, for years.
Fifty two, submissive, just inside the ring, twenty three years in and about as certain of myself as I am ever going to be. I was married for a long stretch, it was pleasant, and I have no wish to repeat it. What I miss is not company. I have a great deal of company. It is the specific experience of being answerable to somebody competent for a defined period and then going home to my own quiet flat.
People read that as coldness and it is the opposite. An hour that happens every week for four years is a far larger commitment than an intense three months, and I have had both.
What the hour contains is negotiable and I have a clear idea. The regularity is not negotiable. If it is cancelled twice in a row I will thank you and stop, and there will be nothing personal in that.
Not looking for daily messages, which I would answer badly. Not looking for somebody who will want more at month six and then be wounded that I meant what I wrote. Not looking to be talked into something that fills my week, since I have arranged the rest of my life to be precisely the shape I want.