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Switches the east, Amsterdam

Blunt post, short sentences, and no adjectives to speak of

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Looking for
one person, both directions, agreed in advance and weekly
Experience
Four years, both sides, nothing longer than a year.
Around
the east, Amsterdam

Blunt post. Short sentences. Very few adjectives. I have written three long ones and all three attracted people who liked the writing. Then we met and it turned out they wanted a paragraph rather than a person.

Twenty eight. Switch. East side. Four years in. Lab technician, so my hours are fixed and predictable and I like them that way. I row on Saturday. I sleep on Sunday. The rest of the week is open.

What I want. One person. Both directions, decided in advance for a given evening rather than negotiated in the moment. Weekly. Local. Somebody who says what they want in plain words and does not make me guess at it.

What I lead with. Control of ordinary things: time, food, sleep, what somebody wears to work. Almost nothing that needs equipment. What I want on the other side. Rules. Being checked. Being told when I have got something wrong, once, clearly, and then it being finished with.

If all this reads as cold, it is not, but I would rather you found the warm part out in a room. Not looking for a correspondence. Two messages and then we meet, or we do not. Not looking for anybody who needs me to pick a permanent side. Not looking for anything at a weekend. If it suits you, send four sentences. Who you are. Roughly where. Which direction. When you are free.

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