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Dominants the west, Amsterdam

I own my flat, and I would rather that were not the draw

Posted as flat_is_not_the_point

Looking for
a submissive woman who would want this from a shared house too
Experience
Twenty years, four dynamics, two of them past three years.
Around
the west, Amsterdam

I own my flat. In this city that one sentence changes how a personals post gets read, and I have watched it happen often enough to want to say something about it.

Forty seven, dominant man, in the west, twenty years in. Yes, I can host. No, it is not the interesting part of me, and twice now I have found myself in something where the flat was doing all the work and neither of us admitted it until far too late.

So write to me as though I lived in a shared house with four students and a broken boiler. If the post would still appeal, we are probably fine. If it would not, that is useful for both of us and there is no shame in it at all, because the housing here is genuinely brutal and I know exactly how lucky I am.

What I want: one submissive woman, a long dynamic, structure through the week, protocol that is quiet rather than performed. I am patient, I am relaxed about titles, and I care more about a small promise kept on a Tuesday than about anything that happens on a Saturday.

Not looking for anybody who needs somewhere to be more than they need a person. Not looking for a dynamic that only ever exists at mine. Not looking to be somebody's answer to a housing problem, which sounds cynical and which I would not have written five years ago.

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