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Submissives the south, Amsterdam

Open city, very small profession, and I need that understood

Posted as two_hundred_people

Looking for
a long dynamic with a dominant woman who is careful by instinct
Experience
Sixteen years, two long dynamics, one of them eight years.
Around
the south, Amsterdam

There are perhaps two hundred people in this country doing my job and I know about sixty of them by name. That number is the reason this post is careful, and it is the only careful thing about me.

Forty six, submissive man, in the south, sixteen years in. I have been open with friends since my thirties and I would not describe any of it as shameful. My professional world is simply a village with a very active group chat, and I have watched what happens to somebody in it who becomes a story.

So: no photographs early, no naming of what I do, and no meeting anywhere my working life passes through. Past that I am direct and I will tell you exactly what I want. A long dynamic with one dominant woman. Protocol that runs through a week rather than an evening set aside. High standards, real consequences, and somebody unembarrassed by formality, because I am not.

I live alone and I can host, which solves the practical half of it.

Not looking for anyone who reads discretion as a closet. I am not hiding from myself. Not looking for someone who wants to be seen with me at things, because I will keep saying no and it will grind on both of us. Not looking for anybody who takes the request for care as an insult to their own discretion, since it is not about you.

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