Berlin, fifty two, I lead through service rather than pain
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- Looking for
- someone who finds usefulness more interesting than intensity
- Experience
- Twenty three years, two households, one of them for a decade.
- Around
- the west of the city, Berlin
There is very little pain in what I do, and I want to say that plainly because it seems to disqualify me for about half the people who write to me. Better it happens before the second message than after the second month.
I am fifty two, I work with books, and the shape of dominance I care about is service. Tasks that are real and get checked. Standards that do not move because somebody is tired. A morning message that arrives at the same time whether or not either of us feels like it. I have run two households on that basis, one for the better part of ten years, and I am unhurried about starting a third.
Berlin, though I am from the west originally and my habits are probably more Rhineland than the city I live in. I keep a small circle and I do not attend much. If you want a partner to be seen with, I am the wrong person and would disappoint you slowly.
I would want to meet several times before anything formal, and I would want to know what you do, what your family situation is, and whether anybody would be hurt by this. That last question has ended two things for me, so I now ask it early.
I do not want a submissive who has never been alone. I want somebody with a full life who chooses to hand over part of it, and who will say when the arrangement stops working instead of drifting out of it.