Berlin, single father, two evenings a fortnight, that is the offer
Posted as feierabend_k
- Looking for
- someone who can work with a fixed and narrow calendar
- Experience
- Twelve years, one marriage inside it, one dynamic after.
- Around
- Prenzlauer Berg, Berlin
My children are with me most of the time. That is the whole shape of my availability and there is no point discovering it in week three, so: two evenings a fortnight, occasionally a full Saturday, planned four weeks ahead and rarely moved.
Forty five, Berlin, dominant, divorced four years and on decent terms about it. My ex knows I am in this and has no problem with it, which removes a complication a lot of people my age are still carrying around.
What I am after is something regular rather than something intense. Two evenings a fortnight is not much but it is dependable, and dependable beats spontaneous once you are past forty. I like control that is administrative as much as physical: what you eat before you come over, what you bring, what you have done since the last time. Rope and impact both, at a moderate level, nothing that leaves marks needing an explanation on a Monday.
Nothing happens at my place while the children are anywhere near it, and I will never introduce anybody to them. That is not negotiable and I mention it because two people have tried to negotiate it.
Not looking for anyone who wants daily contact, because I cannot give it and I will not promise it. Not looking for someone who reads a cancelled evening as rejection. Sometimes a child is ill and that is simply the end of the plan.