Berlin switch, and could people please answer their messages
Posted as commuter_belt
- Looking for
- someone who replies, which apparently is a specialist requirement
- Experience
- Thirteen years, both roles, currently unimpressed.
- Around
- the far west of the city, Berlin
I have written eleven considered messages this year and had three replies. One of those was a photograph of nothing in particular, sent without a word. I am not bitter, but I am keeping score.
Forty one, live just outside Berlin and work in it, a switch with a slight lean towards leading. Thirteen years in this. Divorced, no children, a flat that is mine and a car that is necessary.
Here is what I want and it is not complicated. One person. Regular. Somebody who tells me what they are thinking without me having to extract it. I am not fussy about experience, appearance or which direction we settle into, and I have become extremely fussy about basic manners.
What I like: rope, long negotiation that turns into a shorthand, being trusted with somebody's bad days. As a bottom I like being made to be patient. As a top I like being told the truth quickly. What I do not like: being asked what my limits are by somebody who has not read the paragraph where I listed them. Being asked to cross the entire city and back for a first coffee. Being dropped after a good conversation, which I know happens and which surprises me every time.
If this reads as grumpy, it is. I would rather write an honest grumpy post than a cheerful one that sounds like everybody else's. If you also find the state of this board dispiriting, write, and we can be dispirited together somewhere with decent coffee.