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Switches Neukölln, Berlin

Only ever done this online, Berlin, want to change that

Posted as container_yard

Looking for
someone who will not make a thing of me being nervous offline
Experience
Five years, entirely online, none of it in a room.
Around
Neukölln, Berlin

Five years of this and I have never been in a room with anybody. Everything I know I know through a screen, and I have become quite good at something that does not fully exist.

Twenty seven, Berlin, I work in a warehouse on rotating shifts. Online I switch and I am confident. In person I assume I will be awkward for the first hour, and I have decided to say so rather than discover it in front of somebody.

What I want is to move this into the real world with one person, slowly. First just meeting. Then being in the same room with nothing planned. I am not in a rush to reach anything specific and I would rather build up than have a big first night I spend three days recovering from.

I have done a lot of text based control and I liked it, so I am not dismissing online. I just want to know whether any of it holds when there is an actual person there.

Not looking for anyone who thinks online experience does not count, because it taught me plenty about communication even if it taught me nothing about my own hands. Not looking for somebody who wants to meet this weekend. And not looking for a long distance arrangement, which would be the same problem with a new person. Shifts mean my free days move. I will tell you them a fortnight ahead, and I keep to what I say.

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