Nurse, thirty eight, Berlin, would like a friend in this first
Posted as nightbus_e
- Looking for
- friendship first and honestly maybe only that
- Experience
- Ten years, mostly bottoming, learning to top the last two.
- Around
- Kreuzberg, Berlin
The thing I miss most is not play. It is having somebody to sit in a kitchen with at two in the morning and talk about this without translating it first.
I am thirty eight and I work in a hospital, which means my sleep is wrecked, my emotional bandwidth is variable, and I am very hard to shock. Ten years in this. I bottomed for most of it and started topping two years ago because a partner asked me to and I found I liked the responsibility.
So the offer is friendship, and if something else grows out of it then good, but I am not going to pretend the friendship is a route to the other thing. I have done that and it makes people feel used.
Practically: I am free at strange times. Tuesday morning is often my Saturday. If your life is rigidly nine to five we will find this hard and it is worth knowing now.
What I do not want. I do not want to be anyone's therapist, I have a full quota of that at work. I do not want somebody in crisis looking for a dominant to organise their life, because I will try to help and then resent it. And I do not want the conversation where I explain to a man that a nurse is not a costume, which has happened often enough that I have stopped being polite about it.